There’s nothing quite like the whirlwind of a Xmas family visit, is there? For a couple of weeks, the house is full of life, laughter, and love—and let’s not forget the endless cups of tea (or Baileys, let's be honest). The kids are spoiled rotten, there’s always someone around to help, and, for a brief moment, life feels like one big festive hug.
Sure, there are some benefits to everyone leaving—taking down the decorations, reclaiming your house, and easing back into some normality. Early nights? Yes, please. A living room free of random socks and extra shoes? Bliss. But saying goodbye to your relatives at the airport always tugs at the heartstrings. No matter how much you’re looking forward to the quiet, the silence feels a little too... silent.
And while we’re busy trying to settle back into our routine, the kids... well, they’re not quite there yet.
The Kids: From Angelic to Apocalypse
While your family was here, your kids were living their best lives. They had endless attention, extra treats (Grandma’s secret stash of sweets, anyone?), and probably got away with things they wouldn’t even dare to try with you.
But now? The attention is gone, the treats are locked away, and reality has returned. Cue the tantrums, the whining, and the general “why is life so unfair?” vibes. It’s like their little brains can’t cope with the transition from constant stimulation to mum telling me to tidy up my toys.
The Parents: Torn Between Sadness and Sanity
Let’s not pretend this is just about the kids. When family leaves, it’s tough on us mums too. We miss them! We’re sad they’re not here for the little moments, the milestones, the silly stuff. But also...we’re exhausted. Because let’s be real: hosting family is no joke. You’ve spent the last two weeks playing tour guide, chef, cleaner, and peacekeeper.
And now, on top of everything, you’ve got two grumpy kids to deal with.
So, What Do You Do About It?
It’s a tough adjustment for everyone, but there are ways to bring the family hangover under control. Here are a few things that have worked for me:
Ease Back Into Routine
Jumping straight back into school, activities, and chores can feel jarring after so much excitement. Take a day or two to keep things low-key—movie night, a walk on the beach, or just a chilled afternoon at home.
Talk It Out Kids might not be able to articulate their feelings, but they sure feel them. Take some time to talk about how much fun you had, how you miss everyone, and maybe even video call Grandma to say hi.
Create a “Family Memory Corner
”Dedicate a little space in the house to all the fun you’ve had. A few photos, postcards, or souvenirs can help your kids (and you) feel closer to family, even when they’re far away.
Stick to Sleep Schedules
Nothing fuels a post-visit meltdown like overtired kids. Getting them back to their usual sleep routine as soon as possible is key to avoiding extra drama.
Plan the Next Visit
Even if it’s months away, having a date in the diary gives everyone something to look forward to. It’s like a little light at the end of the tunnel for the kids (and you).
Final Thoughts
Living away from family is hard, and the highs and lows of their visits can leave everyone feeling a bit wobbly. But with a little patience, a lot of cuddles, and maybe an extra coffee (or wine), you’ll find your rhythm again.
Lou x
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